Have you ever been rejected? Do you struggle with the feeling of rejection? Do you feel like you are worthless and not good enough? There were many days, in fact, there were many years when I felt rejected, unwanted, unloved and unworthy.

If you didn’t know, I am a divorced mom who went through a long period of abuse during my marriage. For many years I had to live with the rejection from my husband who never had any problems to let me know just how much he hated me. I was hurt badly. I was kept from my friends so did not really have anyone to share what was going on.

On a particular Sunday, I went to church and the Pastor who had just come back from Africa was sharing some encouraging words which really connected to me. He said that not to let anyone feel that that they are better than you and that you are important He had us repeating this quote which is now one of my favourite.

I am no ordinary person. I am born to reign and win in life. I am destined for greatness.

Apostle Cedric Forbes

From there on I decided that I was not going to linger in the situation anymore. I made the decision to lick my wounds and arise.  I got a divorce and since then I have learned to overcome my rejection and now able to live my best life now. Today I want to share with you 9 Simple ways you can overcome rejection and live your best life.

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What is Rejection?

Rejection occurs when we push someone or something away. This rejection can come from friends, family, spouse or the workplace. When rejection occurs, it can cause some very hurtful emotions especially if it comes from the one person you trusted and thought had your back.

Symptoms of Rejection

Rejection can make you feel like you are a failure, broken, unworthy and even ashamed of who you are.

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9 Simple Ways to Overcome Rejection

9 Simple Ways to overcome Rejection

1. Acknowledge Your Emotions

The first step in overcoming rejection is to acknowledge how you are feeling. Rejection causes many emotions. Accept that you are feeling these emotions and come to grips with the reason why you are feeling rejected. You can write it down in your journal, this way you can let it all out. This is especially useful if you don’t have any close friends that you can talk too. Once you have done this, feel free to cry, scream or whatever way you feel to release.

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2. Silence Your Inner Critic

That inner voice that is speaking to you, which keep on criticizing you, you need to silence it. The inner critic is you talking to yourself and if you listen to it carefully, you will realize that it is often speaking negative thoughts. It’s that nagging in your head that quickly reminds you that you are not good enough, that you will never find anyone to love you or that you are not looking good. If you have a friend or family member that is constantly criticizing you would you accept it? No, I am sure you wouldn’t. Then why do you allow your inner self to criticize you and accept it? One best way to silence your inner critic is to replace it with positivity, the next step

3. Reprogram Your Mindset

Now that you have silence your inner critic you need to replace the negativity with something positive.  Begin to speak positively about yourself and do it every day.  I am big on positive affirmations and I speak them every day. Some I repeat every day include

I deserve the best and I accept it now.

I am a beautiful and complete individual

I am not a failure and I will rise up every day to live my best life now

Success will be my portion, today and every day to come.

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 Sometimes I would just use the Amazon Echo Dot and include daily affirmations as part of my morning routine. This can be done at night at well.

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Additional you can write down things that you love about yourself and speak it to yourself daily. It is good to repeat it when you are looking in the mirror. This will help you to build your confidence which will allow you to overcome rejection.

4. Avoid All Forms of Negativity

Get rid of all form of negativity from around you. This will include ditching friends who are constantly speaking negatively about you. You cannot afford to have these negative thoughts fill your mind. If you have to connect to new friends so be it.  Furthermore, sometimes change is good.

5. Understand that there is nothing wrong with you

Being rejected will leave you feeling as if something is wrong with you. Stop right there! Nothing is wrong with you. You are perfectly imperfect which something I often remind myself of . You are not at fault for your rejection. Rejection will have you feeling as if you are unworthy and not good enough. When you accept that there is nothing wrong with you, you open the door to begin to understand who you are and what you are worth.  You will also be able to practice self-love.

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6. Practice Self- Love

It is very easy for us to love others but when it comes to loving ourselves we often have difficulty.  When you love yourself you are putting yourself first and you are able to recognize that you are not perfect and that you will make mistakes. However, when you make those mistakes you are able to forgive yourself. When you have self-love, you no longer have to depend on others to make you happy and you know your worth. There are many ways you can practice self-love. These include telling yourself things you love about yourself and distancing yourself from negative persons.

Lauren Duclos of EllDuclos.com has a very informative article on How to Fall in Love with Yourself Again. In this post, she shares 9 Ways to Fall in love with yourself all over again after she herself struggled with feelings of unworthiness.

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7. Avoid a Victimized Mindset

It is very easy to remain in a victimized mindset.  Yes, you may have been the victim, but once, you accept the rejection and now can move on from it. Remaining in a victimized mindset will hinder you from overcoming the rejection. This means that you need to forgive the person who caused you to feel rejected. Forgiving the person will free up your mind and give you the energy to focus on the more positive opportunities that you can have in your life.

8. Learn From your Rejection

While rejection is often seen as something negative, it does have some positive connotations. Through rejection, you can learn some things about yourself that you never knew before. You discover your weaknesses as well as your strengths. This puts you in a position to strengthen your weaknesses and further build on your strengths. For me, one of the lessons I learned is just how strong and I resilient I have become due to the rejection and was able to overcome rejection.

9. Take some Focus off of you.

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Engage in activities that will help you to take the focus off of you. By engaging in these activities you will be able to free your mind from dwelling on any form of negativity. Do something you have never done before.  Go out dancing or hiking. Do some traveling, this will allow you to see the world from a different perspective. Additionally, focus on the things that you are grateful for, the good things that you have such as your family, friends and your children.

Using these tips I was able to overcome rejection.

 I hope you find them useful. Remember you are no ordinary person, you were born to reign and live in life. You are destined for greatness.

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16 thoughts on “9 Simple Ways To Overcome Rejection

    1. That is so true, will have an upcoming post on forgiveness because it is the hardest one to do after divorce. Thanks for reading

  1. Reprogramming our mindset is so important – Once we stop seeing rejection as a negative experience and instead see it as a step towards something better, it changes the whole game!

  2. Anthea,

    Great post! Rejection and abuse are huge, and debilitating to say the least. It’s so helpful for people who have gone through this to talk about it and what they did to overcome it.

    Best,
    Andrea

    1. Thanks Andrea, that is the reason I am sharing, so others can know that they are not alone and can overcome.

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